When I was first starting out on the internet, about 13 years old, I knew that I wasn’t welcome in porn communities. I knew I wasn’t the intended audience and therefore had no say in what was and wasn’t okay. I knew that the moment I lied about my age on a website, I was putting myself at risk of seeing things I didn’t like. And I saw plenty of things I didn’t like. But instead of me, a child, being like “you can’t draw this! It makes me uncomfortable!” I just closed the tab and didn’t return. Maybe I blocked a user so I wouldn’t see their content anymore. But either way, I kept my mouth shut because I knew that I was not invited to this space.
Porn communities don’t exist solely for adults to jerk each other off. And I didn’t understand this as a child. I thought people drew porn because they wanted to get off. But people draw porn because it helps them escape. I know this now, as an adult who draws porn, that porn is often a reflection of a personal experience or, the extremely kinky shit, is often an outlet for some sort of negative emotion harboring inside of them that they’re letting out through art. Porn communities of all kinds is filled with people who use porn to draw themselves away from harsh realities, to explore things they’ve been through, or even just to vent. And I did not know this as a child. Because I was not ready for this information.
If you’re a minor and you decide to enter a porn community, it’s on you to keep yourself safe from harmful material. It isn’t the job of adults coping with traumas and emotions. It isn’t the job of the website to pass judgment on what should and shouldn’t be on the website. And it isn’t the job of other users to comfort you either. You decided to turn off safe search. You decided to go into the porn tag. You decided you were ready to look at something that was never made for you, that was never for you to look at. You decided you were ready to grow up. And part of growing up is knowing that some people indulge in harmful things through harmless methods. This goes for art, writing, pornography, and personal lives. Adults do things to make themselves feel better that minors don’t have access to for a reason. And that reason is, you’re not ready. You don’t have the proper mindset to indulge in things like this.
Anyway, TL;DR: minors aren’t welcome to NSFW spaces, so stop acting like you have a say in what adults should be doing.
akiiizasaid: I'm not a Sheith shipper, but I am so happy for every Sheith shipper! :D To celebrate for them, why not draw a picture of Shiro and Keith making flower crowns for one another? That would be adorable! Congrats again and good luck on your new art blog!
I’ve been talking with a friend lately (jsyk we’re Filipinos who were born and raised in the country). And I think we just find it a bit odd… the term Fili/pinx. Because Filipino is already a gender-neutral term. Yes Filipina is a term specifically for females but at the same time they can also use the term Filipino? It doesn’t exclude them nor any other gender for that matter.
We don’t even have gendered pronouns in the first place. So I don’t know why we’re forcing our language to conform to Western gendered standards THEN add the x to make it gender-neutral when it was fine as it was.
Is it an expat thing? who knoooows not me idk idk idk. But I’ve also heard this same confusion from other people around me. So yeah. Just a bit of rambling.
I don’t intend this to be a full-blown discussion or whatever. Just sharing my confusion.
